How to Turn an “Over the Top” Wedding into an “Over the Top” Marriage


The Knot, the leading wedding brand and marketplace, recently released the 2016 Real Weddings Study. It’s the largest survey of Americans married in 2016. The results revealed the cost of weddings has spiked to $35,339 and couples are now putting a greater emphasis on the guest experience.

The study, which surveyed 13,000 brides and grooms, showed the cost per guest has increased. The entertainment, photo booths, games, musical performances and fireworks were the top wedding trends highlighted. Proving that couples are planning and spending with a goal of making their wedding an unforgettable experience for their guest.

The study was quite revealing but was also a great reminder for me. Of course a wedding is supposed to be a once in a lifetime experience. It should be special and memorable. But the concern is that the energy and effort couples put into the wedding isn’t also reflected in the marriage.

With the guest experience being the main focus of today’s weddings, I wonder if the spouse’s experience could become a top trend for the marriage.

Marriage is a lifetime of moments.

Marriage is a lifetime of moments. Every day is a new opportunity to focus on the other person in your relationship and create unforgettable moments. The goal with the wedding trends, mentioned previously, is to create a buzz and stir up a feeling that will have guests talking about the wedding for days to come. Don’t we desire this for our marriage too? Don’t we want to create trends in a marriage that allows it to get better with time?

Can you imagine the state of marriage if every person cared about their spouse’s experience? Here are a few examples of what it would look like if we transformed those “over the top” wedding trends into “over the top” marriage trends that could truly transform our relationship.


Trend #1: The entertainment.

Couples must seek ways to enjoy one another’s company. Quality time together could prevent many of the challenges most couples face. Date nights, fun nights, and spontaneity are a must for happy couples.

Trend #2: Capturing moments.

Are you capturing moments and holding on to the good times? When couples experience those not so great days, it’s important to tap into those brighter days as a reminder that you have the potential to be good together again. Remembering the good times during moments of struggle could be healing for most couples.

Trend #3: The fireworks.

If only couples could capture and bottle the feeling we have on our wedding day. There are fireworks, magic and love in the air. Our marriages need this trend more than ever. Life can be so challenging that there should always be somewhere in our lives where we feel good. Why not do everything possible to make that space your marriage. Couples have control over whether or not there are fireworks in their relationship. Be excited about your spouse. Put intimacy at the top of your priority list. Invest in your lovemaking and one another. Together, couples can plan on how to make the marriage more exciting.

Wedding trends are cute and fun for the guests. However, marriage trends are most important and amazing for you and your spouse for the lifetime of your marriage. Making sure your spouse has the best marriage experience possible should be the ultimate goal.

BMWK, what are other marriage trends couples should adopt?  Do you think the current wedding trends are “over the top?”

About the author

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter wrote 613 articles on this blog.

Tiya Cunningham-Sumter is a Certified Life & Relationship Coach, founder of Life Editing and Author of A Conversation Piece: 32 Bold Relationship Lessons for Discussing Marriage, Sex and Conflict Available on Amazon . She helps couples and individuals rewrite their life to reflect their dreams. Tiya has been featured in Essence and Ebony Magazines, and named one of the top blogs to read now by Refinery29. She resides in Chicago with her husband and two daughters. To find out more about Tiya, and her coaching, visit www.thelifeandlovecoach.com and www.theboldersister.com.

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